When Your Rear End Is Twice The Size Of His
January 4th, 2008 Posted by: Chaszey Sandhriel
We all know men who love, really LOVE a big rear-end. In fact, there are many songs written about this topic and in some African regions women put pillows and such into their skirts to make their derriere look more voluptuous. Imagine your partner absolutely adoring your big rear end - it’s really flattering if you think about it.
Men who love big butts are women’s blessings, at least to those women who get to enjoy that very asset on themselves. Thank goodness for movie stars like Jennifer Lopez who think that their big rear ends are their best assets - we are truly given a break here. All of this is great but what if your butt is twice the size of his and clearly you look like you could whoop his little tush?
If you’re man is not happy about your weight gain and it shows especially in those areas that are considered “high feminine” area such as our curvy waste lines, butt and chest area, what can you do? Is your g-string still visible when you give a performance or is the skimpy fabric covered over by the excess sausages around your waist? You’re okay as long as you can still see your underwear and so can your partner, but it may be time to giddy up and do something if finding your underwear requires a treasure map to find it and dig it up.
Seriously now, no matter what “they” think of us when we are in our birthday suit, it really matters what WE think of ourselves. Because depending on how we feel about ourselves is what determines how free we behave in the bedroom. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and since we are our own beholders every time we look in the mirror, and since our thoughts are creating the person we are moment to moment, it is crucial to be confident with who we are and what we look like, all the time.
The other challenge is that the other person’s facial expressions change as soon as they see us naked. His face either reflects pleasure and turn-on (besides many other drool-causing emotions) or disappointment and let-down. We then pick up his facial expressions, which is information we use to formulate how we want to react and feel about what just happened on that man’s face when he saw you naked.
Billions are spent in staying youthful and even more billions are spent in chemical research on how to prolong beauty; our internal qualities that make us who we are cannot be bought and no cream or pill will change the fabric of our soul. What we can focus on right now are the qualities of our souls, because those are enduring and here to stay.
The following insights can help in regaining confidence:
1. No matter how unattractive you feel because of your weight, do nice things for yourself first because those things help you start feeling better about yourself. 2. Start wearing matching underwear and bra, even if no one will see it, you will know it. 3. Light a candle for yourself when you eat (by yourself) or when you take a bubble bath or just read a book. 4. Get a pedicure even if it’s winter time and no one can see it. You see it every day and that’s all that matters. 5. Let go of feelings of jealousy about skinnier women and be at peace and know that nothing can take your divine place and no one can steal your man from you if he’s truly your man.
What is yours cannot be taken from you, so there is no need to be jealous of another woman. If you have married the right person then there is no competition for you, no matter how raggedy you or how beautiful other women look on the outside. Your right partner and once-in-a-life-time true love will only have eyes for you and only wants to see you healthy and happy. What hurts him is not that you’re fat, but that you are unhappy with yourself and have stopped caring about yourself. How can you expect him to care for you when you don’t care for yourself? All he wants is to see you happy and confident about who you are, inside and out.
PS: If this description is far from the person you are currently with and he even threatens for you to lose weight or else he’ll leave you, then he may be doing you a great service. You may want to consider letting him go so he can run after moving “trophies” so you can focus on getting yourself in perfect condition to welcome the man you were meant to be with in the first place.
